"A hallmark of science is setting out to discover one thing and then discovering something else." • Last night I listened to a podcast of a conversation between Liz Gilbert and Ann Patchett at the New York Public Library in which they discussed (amongst many things) the particular combination of women and science in books. It made me think about why I loved this book but also why I loved 'The Signature of All Things' and why I always want to make my female characters scientists of one kind or another. And where I landed today is that the simplest explanation is usually the right one: my mum is an electrical engineer. I love thinking that my mum, and everything I know about who she is, has been wonderfully tangled with literature and womanhood and beauty in my mind, even though her profession sometimes feels like the polar opposite of my interests (the only test I failed in high school was on electricity). I loved this book and I loved the podcast, and I'm grateful for the insight (and more than all of that, I love and am grateful to my mum).
Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert
Think about it, what would produce better results?
Getting yourself into a habit of regular training and good nutrition habits now?
Or waiting to take action until you have the perfect plan in place?
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I recently joined my church choir in preparation for Easter. I come from a lineage of singers, particularly my mom + my grandpa. At the age of 86, my grandpa is still in a quartet and choir. There was no one I was more excited to tell than him.
I LOVE to sing, but I've never been apart of an organised singing group. In fact, I've actively avoided them, partially because I don't like being the centre of attention and partially because I didn't think I was a good enough singer to do so. I remember turning down a lead role in a grade 7 school production because of these exact things. I basically didn't feel good enough.
Over 15 years later, I still carry that with me; it's an invisible weight, a story I tell myself. An excuse that keeps me from pursuing opportunities, like this choir.
I can't really tell you what changed, but I took that one step further this time. Yet still, I walked into the room and felt out of place. I sat down and made small talk and yet still heard this tiny voice asking, "do you belong here?". It was almost as if I was waiting for someone to turn to me and yell "fraud!". As you may guess, no one did. The only one telling me I didnt belong, was me.
What seems like a simple matter going to an activity, turned out to be a much deeper lesson on belonging, self-worth and self-acceptance.
I think most of us have a 'choir' complex with something . A fear of not belonging that can stop us in our tracks, crippling our dreams and making risks very difficult. When our mind tells us that we don't belong, we have a tendency to accept it. From there, we can cast that belief on to others around us...suddenly feeling isolated and discouraged.
That doesn't have to be your story. I challenge you to challenge those thoughts that make you feel unworthy or undeserving. I have found Cognitive Behavioural Therapy to be a useful tool.
No one says it better than @brenebrown, "Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance". : @ryanoakman