Be proud that as a leader you inspire. Enjoy the fact that you can help people reach their own #goals. Never see someone burning brightly BECAUSE of you as a threat, it is the ultimate compliment and if you nurture them, good things will come for both of you.
This quote from James Humes sums up my beliefs perfectly. Communication is an art form and it is at the absolute centre of good leadership.
Succeeding on your own is perfectly possible but, leading others will accelerate your successes whilst opening doors for them too - #oneteamonedream
Over the last few days we have looked at the concept of control, influence and concern. The aim is to increase the amount of time you spend in each circle as you approach the centre. The area of concern is the area where we have no control and thus spending time here is most likely to cause stress.
The key is to identify where the problem you are dealing with lies and ensure you spend the appropriate time on solving it. This is a key skill in achieving a truly calm mind and being as productive as possible.
If we understand that spending time in the central circles is most beneficial, we can also look to expand those circles. Develop your skills, analyse your problems and as well as prioritising the tasks which already fall in the centre circles, see what you can do to expand those circles to incorporate the trickier challenges!
Tag anyone you think might benefit from this model or any of the mindfulness topics and please ask questions in the comments, I'll be happy to expand on all of it as these are topics you can easily spend a day teaching so six instagram pics barely scratch the surface
Keep growing, be calm and succeed!
I hope over the last few days you have had a go at taking just 10 minutes to get your headspace clear. A calm mind is a great place to make plans and decisions allowing you to start each day as if it were on purpose. Take the positivity you get from knowing you'll be that little bit closer to your goal by the end of the day and run with it!
Later on I'll share with you a simple summary of what we have covered the last few days so you can refer to it when things get tough and use it to help other people align their thoughts and actions. #haveagreatday #tgif
The final part of our model is the circle of concern. If things fall outside of our control or our influence they become part of what concerns us.
We all have some ability to put these parts of our lives to one side mentally but, it is an area most of us can improve.
Logically, if we can't control or influence something, we should spend very little time thinking about it. This area of our mind is what causes stress and anxiety - the time and energy spent going over something which we cannot to anything about is damaging to our #mentalhealth.
Simply ignoring these things is not always an option and the skills involved in coping with these causes of stress can take years to master and certainly can't be tagged on the end of an instagram post. What we can do is use our mindfulness exercises from day one to check the finer details of what concerns us. Maybe the problem should be in our circle of influence? If there is something we can do to influence the outcome, we have to make sure we are doing it.
On top of this, with any problem outside of your circle of control, look at what you might be able to learn that would shift this particular problem into your area of control. Learn, grow and by default, spend less time in your circle of concern
Day three of my introduction to mindfulness; if you haven't tried the exercise from day 1 yet, please do, it's well worth it!
Mindfulness is one part of your development that you can take control of in just a few minutes a day. It is a really useful tool in developing your coping strategies so that you can remain calm in all situations - a great asset to any #leader
Still with an aim to acquiring a calm mind, influencing is a key skill. Directing people is part of leadership but coaching them to come to the right conclusions themselves is far more effective and these influencing skills can also be used to get your peers and superiors on board with your ideas.
From a mindfulness point of view, influence is slightly different. If something that you control is stress free and completely in your hands, things you have influence over are PARTLY in your control and so although not stress free, this is not a high-stress place!
It's key to understand what things in your life fall into this area so that you ensure appropriate mental energy and time is spent on them. Once you acknowledge that you have done all you can in an area and truly believe this, you can move on to the next thing with a clear conscience.
The third area of this model is the circle of #concern. We'll take a brief look at this tomorrow and the following day we'll piece the different stages together to demonstrate where we should focus our attention and, how all of this results in a more peaceful, calmer mind more capable of making decisions and developing further #control#circleofcontrol#circleofinfluence#sphereofinfluence#calm#mindfulness#success#sphereofcontrol#grow#develop#lead#communication_is_king#understanding_is_everything#communicate#motivationalquotes#inspire
Bet on yourself and you'll never lose. Did you do it yesterday? Did you take just 10 minutes simply to give yourself chance to organise your thoughts and give yourself some #headspace?
Try it, it really works! Comment below if you found it helpful or if you had any difficulties letting your mind wander and tag someone you think could benefit from a little #mindfulness.
Looking after your mental health is at least as important as looking after your physical health so don't underestimate it's value, invest in yourself and reap the rewards!
Later I'll share some insights into how #influence fits in with #control so have a look at yesterday's posts, like, share, comment and grow!