[ MY LIFE MY CHOICE ]
As women we are often being judged for the decisions we made for our lives or the lifestyle we chose to embrace. Still we are being questioned for making our own rules (that suit us best). Instead of Acceptance we are getting asked Why this and why not that.
A career vs a stay at home mum.
A married woman vs a single woman.
A mother vs a childfree.
I sometimes ask myself why I want to get married? Is it because I'm in a relationship or it's the common path followed by the majority? Why do I want kids? Is it because I'm a woman and my body knows how to make a human being or is it because I deeply desire it.
“I hope that in this year to come, you make mistakes. Because if you are making mistakes, then you are making new things, trying new things, learning, living, pushing yourself, changing your world. You're doing things you've never done before, and more importantly, you're doing something.” - Neil Gaiman
One thing I never really speak about are the countless mistakes I’ve made when I was a mechanic. I never talk about it because the Automotive Environment isn’t about giving positive feedback.
Everyone is very quick to attack you whenever you make a mistake. When I say EVERYONE I mean everyone, which includes the managers. No one really looks at or cares about the countless hours you put in. No one looks at the progress your making. You were expected to know everything because admitting to not knowing how to do something showed a sign of inability to do the job. If you did ask to learn how to do something, the general response was “You shouldn’t even be doing this job”. You were constantly yelled at instead of talked to as human being.
The environment was just very Toxic. It was one of the big reasons why I decided to change careers. I’m in a field now where things are completely opposite. When you make a mistake, you use that as an opportunity to learn & then share that experience with others. People do realize the countless hours you put & thank you for it. You aren’t expected to know everything. Saying “I don’t know” is ok as long as you’re willing to learn. Asking for help is encouraged. The best part is that I’m able to be spoken to as a human being.
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