Ti dicono "non sei più la stessa, sei cambiata". Ma non sanno niente di te. Non sanno delle volte in cui sorridi invece di piangere. Di quando stringi i denti invece di crollare. Di quando resti in silenzio anziché urlare. Non sanno niente di te, ma ti giudicano, parlano della tua vita, la toccano con le mani sporche. La calpestano. Senza rispetto. Senza attenzione. Senza sapere.
When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us. You have to come to your closed doors before you get to your open doors.
1. They Acknowledge Their Emotions
Rather than suppress, ignore, or deny the pain, mentally strong people acknowledge their emotions. They admit when they're embarrassed, sad, disappointed, or discouraged. They have confidence in their ability to deal with uncomfortable emotions head-on, which is essential to coping with their discomfort in a healthy manner.
2. They View Rejection as Evidence They're Pushing the Limits
Mentally strong people know that rejection serves as proof that they're living life to the fullest. They expect to be rejected sometimes, and they're not afraid to go for it, even when they suspect it may be a long shot.If you never get rejected, you may be living too far inside your comfort zone.
3. They Treat Themselves With Compassion
Rather than think, "You're so stupid for thinking you could do that," mentally strong people treat themselves with compassion. They respond to negative self-talk with a kinder, more affirming message.
4. They Refuse to Let Rejection Define Them
Mentally strong people don't make sweeping generalizations when they're rejected. If one company turns them down for a job, they don't declare themselves incompetent. Or, if they get rejected by a single love interest, they don't conclude they're unlovable. They keep rejection in proper perspective.