In contemporary culture you are considered an adult just by the year of birth cited on your documents. There is rarely a passage of rights as there was in tribal cultures, an all-encompassing event within the community that put some challenges before you to mark the transition into adulthood, where you are ready to take up more RESPONSIBILITY.
In a world where you are not called out to stand behind your words and action you’re allowed to stay a child, with more expensive toys and greater spending power of course, but a child still. It is actually preferred if you don't grow up since it is much easier to manipulate those who still feel the need to live up to someone else’s expectations. So you are not here or there because of him, her, the economy, the circumstances, your family background, the institutions... If you are still playing this narrative of relieving your own duty to take care of yourself onto other people and situations you are not ready to be considered an adult. To grow up means to stop exporting the responsibility for your #life onto outside circumstance. Being told what to do, think , feel or how to act has a certain appeal for those who refuse to grow because it means that there is always some space left to shift the blame onto something else in case it doesn't #work . It means valuing #freedom , but more as a fun word to throw around and use for instant gratification purposes than the real #quality of human spirit that caries responsibility as its core factor.
You have no right to export this responsibility, no right to hold others accountable for your #happiness , #wellbeing , #success , sadness, contentment... It's all on you. Take it and use it to the best of your abilities. If you don't stop working on it, things you are struggling with now will seem so trivial in a few years. Keep going!