These photos side by side make me realize how far ive actually come and how we are able to get through hardships with time. We are able to change the way we view ouselves by taking small steps into the right direction. I was not healthy and not happy. I was going through alot in 2016-2017 id just gone through a really bad breakup, my grams passed we were moving houses it just seemed like I couldnt catch a break. I ended up being so harsh to myself I was 110llb i was over excercising it just helped with stress and i neglected to eat. It wasnt till i stepped on the scale and realized how small i have become that i knew i had to change. I was miserable my body needed a break. Ive had so much help to get me where i am today. Never give up guys no matter what. Some days are better then others just know everything is going to be okay Its okay to ask for help. Tommoroow is a new dayAll it is, is time #recovery#trauma#stress#heartache#keeppushingthrough#dontgiveup#rememberwhyyoustarted#yougotthis
An older woman once said to me "When a guy comes along some women get goofy; we forget ourselves and our goals." I've been there... more than once. I call it giddy versus grounded. The thing is, sometimes we don't realize we are doing it. Our behaviors seem perfectly normal to us.
We get so lost in the other person that we marginalize ourselves by the way we allow him to treat us. Time and again, we turn our world upside down to accommodate them in a must-have, even desperate, kind of way. We "betray" ourselves as the wise Caroline Myss puts it because we go against our own values.
We don't always speak up when they hurt us emotionally. We keep our mouths shut because______ (fill in the blank). We can't seem to walk away because the thought of losing them brings heartache. It is then that our behaviors can become co-dependent because we are dependent on another for our happiness. Their actions seem to control our emotions as if with the flip of a switch. We choose not to let go in order to give God/Universe the opportunity to Divinely guide us.
When you choose not to let go, the Universe often brings many, many more lessons about the act of surrendering.
I have done all of these things. I have learned from them and I continue to learn and empower other women through my work. We either learn through pain or through joy. The pain of relationships can be one of our biggest teachers.
I have learned that no one can complete me. I am already whole. No one can make me happy; that is my job. I must love and accept myself before I expect someone else to do so. If I rely on looks/physical appeal as the currency for getting noticed by someone -- esp. if he wouldn't otherwise notice me -- I will soon find myself shortchanged. If someone does not accept me for who I am then he is not the person for me. Respect yourself, honor your values, and stay grounded. ~ Christine Ferguson, Spiritual Coach - Healing House Institute #spiritualcoach#spiritualteacher#womenempowerment#successcoach#heartache#breakup#healinghousewomen#selflove#selfrespect#goddess#grounded#positivevibes#romance#lovelife#relationships#dating#healing#confidence#healinghouseinstitute