Double standards abound in our world, this is obvious... Being positive is not going to make these dangerous forms of ignorance just go away. To heal a problem on a global scale by impacting an entire species beliefs and perceptions, everyone must be made aware of the ‘problem’ or ‘dysfunction’ or ‘misunderstanding,’ or that which is causing differing forms of traumatic suffering.
Being positive only is not going to heal anything, anymore than warring and competing and murdering each other is going to heal anything or gain freedom or evolve progress amongst Humankind. Neither extremes have the emotional maturity of strength and love to hold space for the pain of truth which must be processed in order for real healing.
Just as humanity is tackling the body shaming issues females face, it is tragic how overlooked the body shaming of men is. Everyone expects or desires men to be tall and muscular and tough, some ideal father figure to be relied upon, some rugged wealthy handsome positive cool customer guy to worship and judge and hate and dismiss the value of other men by. Beyond what unspoken standards Hetero and bisexual men face in relation to female expectations, Homosexual males also face body standards by their male lovers. Like females, males’ value and importance as possible romantic partners, as workers, as social member of whatever cultures we are each a part of, is influenced by our appearance and general demeanor.
Heterosexual men shame each other constantly over how manly or not manly other males are, what clothes they are wearing, how they talk, how they behave. Males use names like ‘pussy’ and wimp and fag and gimp and sissy and weak and many other varieties of hateful terms to denote lacks of manliness. Being a fat male is a condition of body that often gets one rejected by many outright.
Males deserve to be loved and honored for who they are inside and not just what they have on the outside. These humane standards of creating a deeper appreciation of each other will advance our species much in the direction of peace through self reflective honesty and mutual compassion and empathy for one another. #masculinism#feminism#humanism
Power can be unleashed by the simple act of talking about your joys and passions and focusing on what you can influence. Learning that we have more control of our destiny through our intention awakens us to both our collective and individual power—our power to cultivate joy in the everyday moments of our lives and in our communities.
Join Jill Stratton, Ph.D., Associate Dean of Undergraduate Residential Learning at Washington University for this talk on Cultivating Joy. With more 20 years in higher education, she has invested a great deal of time and energy in researching career joy, strengths-based leadership, and the concept of creative flow.
Jill teaches the Psychology of Young Adulthood, Leaders in Context, and Bad Leadership at Wash U and is firmly convinced that the more time spent exploring flow and career joy, the more effective people will be in their lives and future careers.
Split Collection — Half of today’s undesignated collection will be donated to International Institute, which helps new immigrants settle successfully in the St. Louis area. (If you pay your membership pledge through the collection, write “pledge” on your check, and it will not be divided.) #beinghumantogether#humanism