One of our biggest fears in life is that we will end up alone, that no one will love us. That no will ever want us. That we are not good enough. That maybe what are abuser/abusers said to us and about us is actually true. We really are worthless and no good.
That's what they want you to believe. When you believe their lies about you, then they can continue to abuse you. The cycle of abuse will continue. It's simple, the more they make you feel inferior, the more you work to build their ego and around and around the cycle goes.
These damaged people will take till your cup is empty then blame you for you're cup being empty and cut you down behind you're back while they still benefit from everything you gave them prior; Experiences, motivation, new friends. Taking care of yourself first again becomes this new forgien ideology after dealing with a emotional vampire because everything was perfect before you met them. All of a sudden you are confused because they discarded you so fast and the constant fighting before that, had no point & didnt solve or change anything. They make you suffer with unwarrented blame making you believe everything is you're fault. You can make a person laugh you can make a person smile you can make a person feel good but weather or not a person is happy is completly, deeply and utterly out of your control.
I believe understanding the etymology of a word is important, when defending the importance of maintaining it's integrity. I believe the word 'triggered' is at high risk of semantic change, & in this case- the change is not progressive.
Between 1600-1700 the word morphed from "tricker" to "trigger", referring to guns.
The concept connected to mental illness of "triggered", though not labeled officially was made famous by Charles Dickenson's reflections on surviving a fatal train accident.
By early 1900s it was officially connected to a Military connected neurosis anomaly dubbed "shell shocked"- which went through it's own series of semantic changes, & is now know as Post Traumatic Stress (Disorder).
Flash forward to 2018, & a quick search of the word "triggered" will produce not mental health education, guidance on how to help your loved one through an event, or resources for those wanting to best prepare & survive through these events. Rather, what one finds is memes, jokes, urban definition, & videos of things other than the original intent.
Why do I think this is worthy of a word rant? Because when I was recently searching for help in regards to my own recent event, I ran across images & thoughts that only exasperated my chaos & loss. I'm considered an acute stress case. One single stressor, which means these images that aggrevate me, (probably) won't further trigger me into an event. I do not have additional stressors, diagnosis, or vices amplifying my state.
That is unfortunately not the norm. The majority of our nations veterans, domestic violence survivors, witnesses, & varying traumatic event survivors are considered comorbid and/or complex cases. Meaning, one trigger can turn into a domino effect of multiple.
I say all this in hopes the education leads to understanding, & further to caution. When using such a historic word, with such impactful meaning, please use it in appropriate context. Centuries of conversation & work have been done just to label with one word an indescribable event. There are many other words to choose from in all these other cases of humor. This is OUR word. There are many like it, but this one is ours. #ptsdawareness#triggered
Remembering Travis B. Bradley, SSG US Army
02/19/1989 - 03/02/2016
Travis was a devoted father, son, brother, friend, and sweetheart. He was an avid sports fan and outdoor enthusiast but truly dedicated his life to his two beautiful children, Emma and Tatum, his family and friends, and serving his country. Travis had a strong faith in God and a love for people, which explains why he always had a bright smile and a helping hand for anyone and always put others before himself. Because of his selfless and serving attitude, it was no surprise when he and his best friend chose to enlist in the Army after the 9/11 attacks in 2001. From there Travis went on to serve 14+ years with two, one-year tours in Iraq. He humbly served the country that he loved. We so miss his selflessness, infectious smile, and jovial sense of humor.
Our family is grateful to Ride for 22 for their dedication and hard work to bring awareness to fallen heroes and support to their families.
Day 568: On average, our nation loses 20 veterans each day to suicide; this is a small way to raise awareness of this plight.
This is my effort to bring awareness and action to those in need of help. These brave men and women put their lives on the line to protect our freedoms; let's do what we can so that our veterans seek and obtain support for their burdens.
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Eva Ceja (Crazy ExGirlfriend, Last Man Standing) was born at Fort Lewis Washington on base and a lifelong army brat who has family interconnected in the US Military. She is currently living and working as an actor in Los Angeles. She has used her passion for the military by volunteering frequently for HELP HEAL VETS which provides free therapeutic craft kits to traumatized veterans. Their kits help veterans take their minds out of the past and off their pain, letting them live more in the present, much like her character Robin.