It seems like "get rich and successful" guru mentoring online is on the rise on social media. Most of it is garbage and nonsense. Sorry if I'm killing the vibe but NOBODY can teach you how to be successful and rich. First of all, there is no secret formula for it and second, what it means to be rich and successful is very subjective. Also, you have to feel the tip of life's dick in order to be able to give advice to someone about something. The things I post are things you already know, but you just need a reminder. Many times I just post them for myself to remind myself of certain things when scrolling through all the BS on social media.
I'm all in for provoking enthusiasm and positivity in life but that should only enrich people's current life situation, not actually encourage them to quit whatever they have going on such as their job, school etc and making them believe that they are really missing out on life and some great opportunities if they don't do X Y Z. That's total BS. We are all different, have different goals, interests, and different ideas of how to live our life. Happiness and success are subjective - that's why I'd never like to sit in a chair to teach about those things since I know that everyone listening would not want to hear the truth, they would like to fast forward to the happy ending and the fun part. Nobody wants to hear about the struggle. Have you ever seen anyone posting a picture of a bad deal they have closed or a snapped an argument with their significant other? You don't see many of those posts because they are depressing and people don't want to see that.
So many of us crave those feelings of what we think is happiness. We think happiness includes excitement, joy, euphoria…but these are only temporary feelings. And the constant pursuit of these feelings only turns into suffering because they don’t last. Why not remind yourself why you started what you are currently doing and see if you can make that situation better and see if you can make a fortune out of that instead of signing up for some "This Is How You Get Rich" online courses. There are no shortcuts to achieving anything worth achieving.
I think that there is a big difference between being productive and being busy; being efficient and being effective. I always had the uncomfortable feeling that if I wasn’t sitting in a certain work environment, I wasn't doing any work. Over time, I have learned that by focusing on fewer things, you can get more done and also the importance of knowing what you are busy about vs just being busy.
I hear it pretty often nowadays that the American Dream is dead or very rare. I find that funny because I'm a living example that it still exists. From day 1 when I put my foot down at LAX I saw potential in this country pretty much everywhere. It may sound cliche but I literally had two bags, a few thousand dollars in my saving account, a pretty awesome six pack, oversized biceps, and matching ambition. Success aka The American Dream can mean different things to different people. To me it has always been equal opportunity (not privilege or special treatment) to achieve all goals in life whether they are personal, financial, or family goals and while doing it, contributing and giving back to the very same society and community that made it possible for me to achieve it. I’m big on individualism and that’s one of the main reasons why I moved here, but the American dream will only work if you do too. Whether you were born here or became an American citizen through neutralization, you will need to put in the work, never blame anyone for your failures, and never expect fairness. There is no such a thing as a fair world or society. I have lived in multiple places across the world and I have not seen such a thing. You on the contrary can design your own life around you and become that person that you advocate and preach other people to be. Become legal if you are an immigrant, don’t break the law whether you just moved here or if your grandparents were one of the first settlers, get good credit, own a property, find a supportive partner where you both support each other's dreams and goals and never ever lose your appetite for success. Don't forget that while you are climbing to the top there have been so many people who have been helping you get there; make sure you do the same for others. To me, that is the magic formula to becoming successful in this country; to me that is the American Dream and I'm looking at it in this wonderful photo of my daughter @layla and my wife @beautybydrcat . Whatever that dream means to you, you are the designer of it. This country is providing enough to make it happen for you. Happy 4th of July.
When something suddenly ends in our life and we were not expecting it, the brain is programmed to see it as the end of everything and we feel punished and in pain and sorrow. It's nothing but a chemical reaction. But if you find a way to tell your mind that it's a new beginning and you embrace that change as a new chapter in your life, you'll battle many difficulties and endings in your life much easier. See, now you're taking the charge of that chemical reaction in your brain. It's a very dangerous place trying to fix what is broken or what is gone instead of focusing on the present and on what's coming. Yes it's easier said than done but many times it's enough that we are aware of it, that's the reason I'm writing this. Maybe, if you read it, it may help you overcome something when it happens because you read it or you heard someone saying it. Your mind will pick it up, it will store it and it will do magic in the background without you even noticing it. Just look in the past, because certain phases in your life ended it allowed you to be where you are today. And the next chapter is still a blank page and you get to be the author of your own story. How awesome.
You know, it's funny but just like you, many times in my life I have felt that people who don't know me so well or even strangers have tried to help me and support what I do more than some people I have known for years. What if in some of those cases people that know us don't necessarily hate us or our progress but they may be afraid of the fact that we come from the same place but they are still where we both started. I wouldn't even take it personal. To every "Why?" there is "Because!".
There are times in life when you are placed in command. You are assigned to be on the front line, taking the first hit but also being celebrated for the victory. But there are also times when you are in a situation without a leader or anyone in charge. 98% of people will feel overwhelmed by the chaos and uncertainty. This is the time when you have to step forward and take command without asking for permission to do so. You don't always need to have the right answers or know what to do but you sure do need to have the courage and strength to put yourself on the front line and make a decision. Any decision will be better than no decision. This is everyday and everywhere - do you really think that emergency doctors always know what the right thing is to do? What they do know is that they have some life saving to do and they have to take charge. Teachers in school when they notice bullying, a bus driver witnessing an argument on the bus - this is the time when the leader in you comes forward or you can also choose to be a passive bystander and do nothing. Being driven by the desire to do the right thing and to solve any issue by completely putting yourself out there is what separates leaders from followers.
Truth, facts, perspective, perception...Just because you're offended, doesn't mean you're right. Just because you're right doesn't mean that you understand it. Just because everyone is doing it doesn't mean it's right.
Just because my path is different from yours doesn't mean that I don't know where I'm going. Just because you deserve something doesn't mean it's granted. Just because I didn't react doesn't mean I didn't notice...truth, facts, perspective, perception...
Social media is becoming a political platform not only for politicians but also for ordinary people who like to vent and who literally get into huge arguments with strangers defending their favorite political candidate, party, or idea. My friend, I have some tough love for you; most politicians, even the “progressive” ones, give a shit about literally no one and nothing but themselves and their mistresses. Only you can change your life; there is no politician or president who will wake up for you at 5am, roll up their sleeves and do the work. Cheers.
The truth might be — and not for everyone, but it happens — that you went into debt for your degree for no reason, and it was literally just a waste of money entirely. And even if you do get a job eventually, it might have nothing to do with that degree. Choose your degree and life partner equally passionate.